I don’t know about you, but I seriously love Tia and Tamera (and if you don’t know who they are, then I don’t know if we can be friends), like for real. They are my sisters in my head, and have been since Sister Sister. I’ve written about them here and here. I think these ladies are a beautiful example of what it means to be a “mom in charge”. I started Moms ‘N Charge® to help moms feel good without feeling guilty. I was on a mission to help them understand that it’s possible to go after your goals and dreams and still be a great mom, wife, sister, etc. I was excited to meet and chat with Tamera a few months ago. I was almost in tears when their reality show went off the air because it was so dope. But then my son and I discovered Instant Mom (loved it), and Tia Mowry at Home, and of course I love The Real.
But since I honestly don’t have a whole lot of time to watch TV, I try to listen to motivating audio books or podcasts when I’m cooking, washing dishes or clothes, or even driving. I’ve shared some of the inspirational Podcasts I listen to here. My new favorite podcast is Tia Mowry’s Mostly Mom Podcast. The purpose of this podcast is your destination for all things positive. It’s here to empower and inspire you through fashion, fitness, family and fun.
Mostly Mom Podcast
What I love about it is that she is so real and authentic. When I found out about the podcast it was about five episodes in and I listened to all of them pretty much back-to-back. I felt like was I sitting right next to her in the studio having a conversation with each topic. Tia encourages her listeners to e-mail her with questions that she sometimes answers/addresses at the beginning of each podcast. I’ve heard a lot of people say that, and I’ve e-mailed a lot of people various questions around their podcast. I can’t say that I’ve ever gotten a response.
So it goes without saying how thrilled I was when I got a message on Snapchat from my girl Adanna of Rattles and Heels, letting me know that Tia gave me a shout out. I had literally just finished listening to the episode before and had planned to listen to the latest one the next night. Well, you already know I ran to check it out.
Yes, I was excited for the shout out no doubt! But I reallllyyyy wanted to know how she answered my question: How do you work past mom guilt in order to go after your goals and dreams?
In my e-mail to her with my question, I shared: As a mom, I think even in this day and age it’s still hard for people to grasp the idea that you can be successful in your career and still be a great mom and wife. So I would love your tips on how you’ve managed to do it because although I know it’s not always easy, you do it well and inspire moms like me to keep pushing.
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Now, I am not going to give away all of the juice that was shared on this particular episode and how she answered this question (cause it brought me to tears but I’ll save that for another post). But she shared how she learned the importance of not losing yourself in your children, through watching her mom put all of her energy and focus into her kids. I was moved to tears as she talked about her mom. She saw that once everyone moved out of the house, her mom was left trying to figure out what to do with her life.
She learned some critical lessons from this and she shared them in this podcast episode.
Advice from Tia: “Just because you’re a mom doesn’t mean you have to give up your goals and aspirations. It doesn’t mean you have to give up on what you want to do in life.”
I also really loved Agatha Achindu’s quote when asked about it: “Don’t let guilt make you forget your purpose.”
Be sure to check out this full episode here. This episode also features Camila Alves and Agatha Achindu, Creators/Founders of Yummy Spoonfuls.
Comment below and let me know what advice you have for moms who battle with mom guilt and pursuing their purpose?