5 Reasons Why I Still Believe in Marriage

This post is part of the Happy Wives Club Blog Tour which I am beyond excited to be a part of, along with hundreds of inspiring bloggers. To learn more and to inspire happy marriages around the world, CLICK HERE!  

If I decided to actually listen to what statistics said about marriage, I’d be in big trouble. There are so many scary statistics out there like “In America, there is one divorce every 13 seconds. That’s 6,646 divorces per day, and 46,523 divorce per week“. And then (from the same source) there’s: “The average length of a marriage that ends in divorce is eight years”. Scary right? Well I’m choosing to throw all of that out of the window because

despite what people are saying, despite what statistics say, I still believe in marriage.

I always talk about the importance of guarding your heart against any outside threat to your marriage, and this would include all of the depressing info that’s out there on divorce. As in anything in life that you want, it all starts with what you allow yourself to truly believe in your mind and heart. It starts with what you feed to your soul. If you want a happy marriage, you can’t feed it negativity, hate, jealousy, or mistrust. If you want to have a long-lasting marriage, it starts with what you feed it.

So despite what reports and critics are saying, here are 5 reasons why I still believe in marriage.

1. I still believe in marriage because divorce is not an option.

“Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man separate” Mark 10:9. Before my husband and I got married, I always knew he was the one I wanted to grow old with. Marriage was never something that scared me. I was never nervous on my wedding day, just excited to finally start living with the man I had fallen in love with six-and-a-half years prior. When we went through pre-marriage counseling, we focused on things we were going to do to ensure that we didn’t end up as a divorce statistic.

2. I still believe in marriage because I truly love having a husband.

Yes, it’s true that I’m a big girl and I can take care of myself. Yes it’s true that I don’t need a man. But I want a man, and I love having a husband. I love being taken care of. I love having someone to share my deepest insecurities with. I love having a husband because I love seeing the sunshine that he puts in our kids’ lives every day. I love having a husband because with him by my side, I don’t feel like there’s anything I can’t do or accomplish. He’s my biggest supporter and encourager, and I wouldn’t want to live my life without him in it.

moms n charge family plays together stays together3. I still believe in marriage because my children are watching.

I truly believe that having children has strenghthened our marriage in more ways than one. We learned right away that we had to be the example that we wanted our children to have of a happy and healthy marriage. I want my children to know that regardless of what they may see and hear as they get older, marriage is still real, and a good marriage is still possible. Marriage has allowed my husband and I to grow in communication, love and support for one another. It’s strengthened our union so that we don’t just say we’re a team, but we truly are.

4. I still believe in marriage because there is nothing like it.

There is no other union as devine as the union created by marriage. I would marry my husband 1,000 times over if I could. Is everything peachy perfect? No, it never is. But I’ll choose imperfection in marriage any day. No matter what stress or overwhelm I’m going through, he’s there to hold me up and see me through.

5. I still believe in marriage simply because…I choose to.

Sites like Happy Wives Club and Black and Married with Kids breathe life and optimism into marriages all over the world. Sites like these, perfectly contradict what the statistics are saying and the negative messaging that certain reality shows are putting out there. The truth is, there is no real reason NOT to believe in marriage. It’s a choice. And the choice is yours.

Why do you believe in marriage?

Fawn Weaver, the founder of the Happy Wives Club™ wrote a book about the best marriage secrets the world has to offer (literally). They say the book is like “Eat, Pray, Love meets The 5 Love Languages.” I say it’s a must-have book for every married and soon-to-be married couple. You can grab a copy HERE.


Be sure to join us on Monday January 6th for what will be the Twitter party of the year! Join Fawn Weaver and the Happy Wives Club community with co-hosts @Ooph, @BlackandMarried, and @RockOnMommies for a Twitter party celebrating Love & Marriage. Awesome prizes (grand prize: $500 VISA gift card)

UPDATE: I was so excited to see this trailer for the Happy Wives Club book that I had to share. The book is absolutely phenomenal and I’m so happy to be a part of this awesome movement. There are just a few hours left to pre-order to get some awesome gifts. Click here!

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  • Christy Hoover
    January 4, 2014 at 11:58 AM

    Hello Christine!

    I loved reading your 5 reasons for believing in marriage. I, too, am participating in this book tour and am so excited to meet new wonderful bloggers. I loved seeing your family! I truly believe in marriage and all that it offers with each one of your reasons hitting the nail on the head! Enjoy your weekend!
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    • Christine St.Vil
      January 4, 2014 at 2:49 PM

      Hi Christy thank you so much for stopping by and for your kind words! I absolutely LOVE what Fawn is doing with this HWC blog tour. I’ll be hopping on over to your post in just a few so thanks for sharing 🙂

  • Julian B. Kiganda
    January 6, 2014 at 5:44 PM

    Love this post sis! Indeed: "Happily ever after is not a fairy tale, it's a choice." Wishing you and Phil continued blessings in your marriage.

  • Fawn Weaver
    January 20, 2014 at 12:30 AM

    What a fantastic post, Christine! So excited to feature it on the HWC site tomorrow :).

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  • Onipa
    February 8, 2019 at 4:32 AM

    I love your article all the woman should read your content and inspired to live a happy married life.

  • Pamela D. Bratton
    August 31, 2019 at 11:42 PM

    Christine, You’re so lovely and beautiful, dear! 🙂

    I really inspired and so happy to read those impressive tips specially written for a married couple.

    Actually, we need to feel marriage, understand husband and love kids. I think that the couple should read your tips before going for separation.

    Thanks for the nice article!
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  • Shaadimarriages
    March 6, 2020 at 1:16 PM

    Thanks for sharing this interesting post. Marriage is the best part of our life. We should always care about each other for a successful marriage. Nice Post

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    August 21, 2020 at 4:15 PM

    thank you for sharing this awesome and insightful post

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