There aren’t a lot of stars that I keep tabs on or even write about here on the blog. But I’ve really grown to love Tamar Braxton over the last couple of years, especially since the start of The Real (seriously, what’s not to love about that show?). And then she hit that Dancing With the Stars stage, and I was slow clapping and standing ovationing (yes) after almost every performance. I mean, she was killing it left and right!
What was initially thought to be pneumonia turned out to be something more serious — several blood clots on either side of her lungs. Naturally, the first thing I thought when I heard the news was her family, her adorable son and amazing husband Vince (who went through a similar health scare). I thought about how worried they must’ve been for her.
On top of being forced to quit Dancing With the Stars, she also had to cancel her 9-city tour with singer, Kem. My heart goes out to Tamar and her family, and I’m praying for a full, speedy recovery.
But I say there are always lessons to be learned. Here are 4 self-care tips all moms can learn from Tamar Braxton:
It’s okay to say no
It may seem painful at first, even scary. But I’ve learned that we are always in choice. If you have too many things on your plate, then you’re the only one with the power to remove, redirect or replace those items. No is a complete sentence and it’s okay to use it as often as you need to. Unfortunately, in this case Tamar had to do it from her hospital bed. Don’t feel guilty for saying no, especially when your health is at stake.
Being superwoman can [almost] kill you
Supermom, superwoman, it’s all a myth. There is no such thing. And if you try to believe that you possess the powers to do it all, be it all and be everywhere at the same time, it will only put your health at risk. Tamar had a lot on her plate, and while we all know she was kicking a$$ at all of it and juggling those balls as best she could…eventually, the balls dropped. Thank God it didn’t cost Tamar her life, but it could’ve. Setting boundaries with your family and friends will help keep you from feeling the need to be superwoman.
Listen to your body
Your body is a great indicator of when you need to slow down, pause for the cause, and recharge. There is only but so much our bodies can take, and if we pile on too much at once, eventually, it will quit on us and force us to take a break. Don’t wait until you’re forced, give your body the love it deserves now.
Learning to FLY (First Love Yourself) is a critical practice
I talk about self-care so much because I know what it means when I’m not taking care of myself. It’s not just me that reaps the consequences, but my entire family. When you’re not taking care of yourself, eventually you’ll be forced to do it, and usually it’s at the most inconvenient time. When you take time to pour love into yourself, everyone benefits from that. Self-care is not selfish. Self-care is a necessity. If it’s not already, it should become a non-negotiable.
With all the demands from your career, family or business, how do you find time to make self-care a priority?