There has been quite a bit of talk about coming from a place of yes. Say yes. The year of yes. Yes to the dress. Whatever, Yes, Yes, Yes. That’s all really fantastic but, sometimes NO is absolutely necessary.
Where is this coming from, you ask? Recently, I was asked if I could do something for someone and my gut reaction was no, but my mouth said SURE! (*eye roll*) I was so annoyed with myself I started talking out loud, to no one in particular (I do that a lot), asking myself and, no one in particular, why the hell I just did that! Sometimes I make myself crazy!! I have my moments, sometimes I say no. If our children ask to go somewhere I think is unsafe, or they want candy for dinner or Pizza for breakfast, I’ll say no! But when it comes to me, even when it affects me, my very state of being, my time, my energy, my personal space in a way that is not positive or productive, more often than not I say yes either literally or with my silent acceptance.
As I have grown more mature in age, I’ve discovered I have a lot less patience for nonsense and I have become in some ways more concerned with self. I am definitely becoming more vocal about what I want and need. I am a perpetual work in progress. So, I must confess to the entire world, I still have this thing where I say yes way too much. I have decided it just needs to stop. Grown people can say no to stuff. I teach our children to say no…say no to anything that does not feel right, say no to anything they do not want to do. Say no. Meanwhile… I am over here like… sigh.
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So, I am going against the grain and making this my year of NO. They say the word yes has power!! Experts talk about the power of yes all the time. But let’s not sleep on the power of no. No can actually be filled with positive energies. The word no can empower us and protect us. No can bring happiness and joy. The word no is a fantastic little two letter word and I think people need to use it more often!
This year, I will say no to anything that does not absolutely bring joy to my spirit.
I will say no to negativity. I will say no to people who do not support my dreams, goals or aspirations. I will say no to unloving people, to stressful situations. No to hate. No to anger. No to resentment. No to Laziness.
No to walnuts, because I hate walnuts. 🙂
And, I will absolutely positively say no to things I don’t want to do and people I no longer want in my personal space. If it is not right within my soul, the answer will be no. This year I am saying no to any darn thing I want, and I will not feel guilty or offer an explanation. Say NO, because sometimes it’s necessary.
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What are you going to decide to now say no to?
NicoleApril 10, 2016 at 10:21 PM
Great post! Not only is it hard to say no, but it is hard to ask for help. As mothers we feel that we need to take care of everything so we have that urge to say “yes”. For those times that it is hard to say no, we should definitely ask for help instead of spreading ourselves thin…or maybe that’s just me 🙂
Christine St.VilApril 12, 2016 at 12:39 PM
Yes indeed Nicole! You are so right about that. And no, it’s not just you. So many moms struggle with this and this exactly why this platform was created. Thanks for sharing!
Christine in ProgressJune 1, 2016 at 12:17 PM
I completely agree asking for help is another key to maintaining your sanity! I still struggle with that at times! Every day is another chance to try again! Thanks for sharing and I am glad you enjoyed my post!