Motherhood Takes a Village: 4 Communities Every Mom Needs (As Featured in Essence)

This is the longest break I’ve taken from blogging since I started in 2012. And let me tell you, it’s been a much-needed hitatus. I’m always talking about the importance of taking charge of your overall sanity. If you get overwhelmed or feel like you have a lot on your plate, then it’s your choice to remove a few things from your plate (or not).

I learned this important lesson from a friend and mentor. We are always in choice. Sometimes that’s a hard fact to own up to. This is why I was thrilled when Essence Magazine asked me to write an article around juggling motherhood. This month, my article was featured in the September issue!!!!


Motherhood Takes a Village

As a mother, you don’t have to juggle everything by yourself. You’ll need different villages to fulfill different roles. Here are some essential mommy villages every mom needs.

I shared a full page of tips and lessons learned in my Essence article, but here are a few tips to get you started.

Family: For travel or last-minute emergencies, I am thankful to have family in place that can step in at a moments’ notice. Note: family doesn’t always mean “blood.”

School: When I started homeschooling, I was clueless. Connecting with other “veteran” homeschool moms was key. I found them through my own network & through Facebook groups. You may find yours at the bus stop, or by joining the PTA.

Neighborhood: I’m a big supporter of getting to know your neighbors. It’s a comforting feeling to know that I can call on mine to check on my kids if need be. Your neighbors should be your allies.

Girlfriend: For those rough days, there is nothing like having lunch or dinner with a great mommy friend to decompress; one who lets you relax, relate, release.

Shoutout to my girl MJ of What MJ Loves for sharing this in her IG stories.

Self-care is about setting boundaries

One thing that I continue to learn is the different facets of self-care. It’s not just treating yourself or getting a mani/pedi. It’s about creating boundaries. And it’s also about asking for help when you need it.

Between working everyday motherhood, homeschool, working my business, serving my clients, and helping my daughter start her business, things have been quite hectic.

So I had to regroup, set some boundaries and take a break from certain things that could no longer be a priority. It meant saying no to opportunities and people that I wanted to say yes to. But it’s allowed me to regroup and create a new strategy moving forward.

It can be scary, but set boundaries when you need to, and be unapologetic about it.

Below is the post I shared on Instagram to share my excitement!


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Pure. Joy. Here’s a real-time look at how I felt holding a hard copy of my article in the September issue of @essence earlier today. 🙌🏿😍 Grateful for the special person that reached out to me to write it, and for all of my friends who have been tagging and texting me left and right since yesterday. 😆 ____ Moms: if you are doing this thing alone, go out and grab your copy so you can get my tips on curating your own village and why you need one. And be sure to join my Facebook group for support (The FLY Mom Suite). We all need a tribe we can call on and count on. ____ I partnered with @latoyiadennis to Co-Host the @motivatedmomretreat because the space is needed. You deserve to take time out for yourself. You deserve to pamper yourself. And you deserve to find and connect with a tribe that understands and supports you. The #MotivatedMomRetreat is that place. Click on the link in my bio ( for the details and to join us next month. It’s going to be amazing! 🎉🙌🏿😍💜 . . . #momsncharge #FLYmom #ittakesavillage #motherhoodthroughinstagram #instamoms #essencemagazine #essence #motherhoodsimplified #mommyhood #momhacks #tribe #humblegratefulblessed #momswhoretreat

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Go out and get your village! You were definitely not meant to go at this motherhood life on your own. You can start by joining my Facebook group, The FLY Mom Suite.

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