I’m going to assume that most of you either saw or heard about Mariah Carey’s New Years Eve performance which many would sum up as a major fiasco. I personally didn’t watch it live, but good ol’ YouTube has it all it seems. At first, I didn’t get why people were seemingly blaming her. Because to my knowledge, it wasn’t her fault she couldn’t hear herself or that the monitors weren’t working. Regardless of the mess that ensued, here are 3 valuable lessons I took away.
Time is Way More Important than Money
From the sounds of it, had there been enough time to do a sound check, the whole debacle would never have happened. Yes, a little bit (or a lot) of time would have solved this. It didn’t matter how talented Mariah is. It didn’t even matter how much money she has in her bank account. All she needed was time.
One thing I find that the less rich have a lot of is time. It’s easy to complain that you don’t have enough this or that, and money usually tops that list of deprivation. However how we utilize our time is faaaar more important. Using our time wisely can help add some coins to that bank account. And besides, you can often find ways to make more money, but you can never make more time. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. So use your time wisely, whether it’s quality time with loved ones, or hustling to make a dollar, be intentional and mindful of your time.
You Have to Push Through
Although Mariah did look kind of awkward during her performance, she stayed on the stage. I know many can argue that she could’ve sung live or performed better, however, she even stated on stage that she was trying to be a good sport. I’m no expert but I’m sure the preparation for a live performance and a lip-synching one (which by the way, nearly EVERY artist does, including Beyoncé at the Presidential Inauguration) is very different. We may have a difference of opinion on this one, but I give Mariah credit pushing through the performance, even if it was ever so slightly.
The same applies when life throws us its surprises. We can’t be prepared for everything that comes our way, but it doesn’t give us an excuse to check out and through in the towel. You have to push through no matter what because guess what? This too shall pass! Literally. It will come to an end just like Mariah’s performance. Now whether your moment lasts 5 minutes, 5 days or 5 years I can’t say. But there is an end to it. Take comfort in knowing that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
Side note: I’ve been in the “storm” when people say just that, and I can’t even gather up a fake smile. I know it hurts, I know it sucks, and catchy phrases don’t help you a bit. But find something that does help, because like I said, giving up on life ain’t an option.
Learn to Laugh at Yourself
In a world of social media, it may seem like our failures are on public display for everyone to ridicule for a lifetime. However, also with social media, we’re bombarded with so much stuff, that your Facebook status, your relationship status, or that Instagram post you wish you never posted, will only be on someone’s mind for a short time, if at all. We tend to think that everybody else spends all day pondering about what you did or said or how you looked. But in all honesty, it’s not that deep. You know why? Because everyone else is worried about their own mess. For the few who seem to only care about spreading other people’s mishaps are probably the ones with the most skeletons in their own closet.
You can’t worry about what others think. Life happens to the best of us, and today it may be you, but tomorrow it’ll be somebody else. We can never judge unless we’ve been there, done that. And even then, don’t judge, cause it might just come right back and bite you in the butt. What’s that saying again…”what goes around comes around”. So be kind, and most of all to yourself.