If you’re no stranger to my blog, then you already know that I’ve shared my story on how I came to be a “Mom ‘N Charge”. If you missed any of these, you can read about it here, here or here. One thing is for sure: I had to go through my own identity crisis in order to find myself, love myself and take charge of my life. Just about every mom becomes a victim of identity theft at some point in their motherhood career. And most moms don’t even realize that their identity is in jeopardy until, like me, they look in the mirror and no longer recognize the person staring back at them.
Whether I’m meeting with a mommy group, attending a mommy meetup or hosting a workshop, there are certain topics that are always up for discussion. Topics include trying to find “balance” with family/work/personal life, how to find/create “me time”, and the dreaded “mom guilt”, to name a few. Since these are all items that I speak about at my Dare to FLY workshop, I thought I’d use this opportunity to do a FLY countdown to my next event on Saturday July 13th. So for the next several weeks, I’m going to be counting down the Top 10 Tips to Reignite, Rediscover & Reconnect With Yourself (in Motherhood), and why more moms need to take the Dare to FLY. What is this FLY business? It’s all about learning how to First Love Yourself.
So let’s begin, shall we?
Let’s face it. When you’re a mom (especially a new mom), that new baby usually takes priority over everyone and every thing. That baby consumes your every move and thought. In the process of wanting to bond and care for your child, there are some things that tend to fall through the crack: like communication with your spouse/significant other/family members. At the most critical time when we need the most help, we tend to turn off the switch to communication, assuming that our spouse “should know” what we need. WRONG! When your household goes from two to three, or three to four, your relationships around you can be in jeopardy. It’s so easy to get caught up in the demands of taking care of a new life, that we forget to take care of the lives that were around long before. Sometimes we forget to simply speak to our spouse; to ask for what we need instead of assuming they already know.
If you’re feeling burnt out, overwhelmed or frustrated, talk to your spouse or a close family member about it. Figure out what you need (an hour to run errands without having to carry around a baby and diaper bag, or just a few minutes to enjoy a cup of coffee in peace), and write it down. Then be sure to take action by asking for what you need. It’s not usually that people don’t want to help us. It’s that we don’t communicate what we need help with.
So take five minutes today to figure out where you might be lacking in this one area of communication. Then be sure to tackle it by expressing your thoughts…out loud…to someone other than yourself 😉
If you want more practical tips on how you can maintain communication with your spouse and other relationships after you have kids, come out and join me at my next workshop on July 13th. At Dare to FLY, you will be connected to other powerful moms who are ready to take that first step with you. Be sure to mark your calendar, and register TODAY by clicking on the image below.
If this topic resonates with you, be sure to leave a comment below, and share this post with your circle of moms who may need to learn how to FLY.
**UPDATE: Follow these links to see the rest of the tips in my countdown**
Tip #9: Set boundaries
Tip #8: Set boundaries (yup, this one is really important)
Tip #7: Put YOU (back) on your calendar
Tip #6: Avoid being “other mothered”
Tip #4: Stop serving yourself leftovers.