C: What advice do you have for thriving in a successful marriage, while also being able to juggle your family and career?
JANEANE: The first thing that worked for us is that we had premarital counseling at church before we got married. It taught us that it’s the ‘two of you against the world’. Nobody else comes first – not his mommy, not your mommy, not your daddy. It’s the two of you against the world. When you realize the two of you are a team, you work together. Then the children come after the spouse. The children are going to eventually grow up and leave you. And then the two of you will still be stuck looking at each other [laughter]. So my advice is to remind people that you and your spouse are a team. So maybe today it’s my job to watch the kids so that you can go and meet a client, and vice versa. In a team, you fill in where you’re needed.
The other thing is that any dream I ever had, my husband made it his dream as well. So when I was trying to go to law school, he was very supportive. When I was worried I wouldn’t get in, he said, ‘Look, if you can spell your name, they’ll accept you into the University of Puerto Rico. We can go live in Puerto Rico because I know you can spell your name’ [Laughter]! His position has always been to support me in whatever my dreams were, and I do the same for him. And every once in a while, I’ll kiss up to him for no reason, even when he doesn’t deserve it. I do it because it makes him feel good.