Being a mompreneur or entrepreneur is somewhat of a trend lately. We’re seeing all kinds of wonderful women really winning in life, and everything appears to be biscuits and gravy.
We also have the ‘wanna-preneurs’ who want to join the moms out there who are winning, but just take a look at their dishes in the sink, the toys on the carpet, dinner that still needs to be made, and homework assignments that need your assistance, leaving you discouraged. You might easily be left thinking, “when in the world am I supposed to have time not only to myself, but to also start a business?”
As my youngest ones were literally yelling their heads off earlier today (for no real reason either) and I was trying to type up a word or two, it dawned on me that I never see these images or videos on Instagram with the hashtag #mompreneur. And just to make sure, I just now went onto Instagram under the tag #mompreneur to see what came up. A lot of it was quotes, and if there was a face in the picture, it was either smiling or ‘smizing’ as Tyra Banks would say. The image that’s portrayed is quite misleading, and I think moms in particular need to be honest about what it actually takes to “make it”.
Below are are 3 things that can help limit the frustration of being a mompreneur that moms do to actually enjoy not only their life, but their kids (cause you know you’ve fantasized once or twice what life would be like, and how much free time and productive you’d be without kids, lol… just saying).
Also related: 5 Ways To Maximize Your Time As A Mompreneur
1. They ask for help
Yes ma’am, your superwoman gig is up. You can do a lot, but you can’t do it ALL, at once, with your hair flawless, and your makeup on fleek. Lies!!! Lol. Lesson: It’s ok to ask for help. Being vulnerable is not a weakness, it’s being human. You may not necessarily want to ask your mother-in-law in case you still want her to think you really are superwoman, but surely there’s someone in your circle, your church or your family, that you can perhaps barter services with. They help you with the kids and you can offer to make them dinner, bake a cake, or watch their children a different day.
2. They stay up past midnight… like waaay past midnight
(Or wake up at 5am, pick your poison) If you’re still getting a full 8 hours of sleep, chances are you’re not accomplishing or completing all the tasks you want to, or could in order to feel like your business is moving forward the way you want it to. Now I’m not saying you absolutely can’t get 8 hours of sleep, all I’m saying is, if you have a couple of kids, it’s highly unlikely on a regular basis. Lesson: There will be sacrifices. Now I’m sure you don’t want to hear this, and some may even disagree. If it isn’t sleep, it’s “Scandal”, or “How To Get Away With Murder”, or any other show produced by Shonda Rhymes, lol. Yes, TV and productivity are not friends.
3. They don’t compare themselves (or try not to)
I’m sure you’ve heard that comparison is the thief of joy, and though it’s easy to say cute quotes like that, I need you to really take that in. You’re bound to stay frustrated if you’re constantly comparing yourself to other mompreneurs out there. How they got where they are, how quickly they got there, how many social media followers they have, etc. Lesson: Don’t do it! Seriously. Your journey is yours and you need appreciate it for what it is. Just thank God that you’re not where you were 10 years ago. Can I get an amen?!
In closing, the actual definition of frustration is “the feeling of being upset or annoyed, especially because of inability to change or achieve something.” I want you to know and realize that you do have the ability to change and achieve anything you set your mind to. With a little bit of patience, a whole lot of planning, and a sprinkle of grace and favor, you got this! Knowing this should hopefully make you a little less frustrated. Don’t give up on your dreams, it’ll all be worth it in the end.
Ask yourself: what is one frustration you will commit to letting go of in your life today?