I am back with #8 in my countdown. If you missed #9 and what this countdown is all about, be sure to click here. In these next several blog posts, I’ll be covering the most common subjects that seem to come up most when discussed amongst my mommy friends and groups. Have you ever felt like you’ve lost yourself in motherhood? I definitely have. But it feels great to be on the other side of that fence.
To RECAP: If you missed my first two tips, be sure to click here and here. For the next several weeks, I’m going to be counting down the Top 10 Tips to Reignite, Rediscover & Reconnect With Yourself (in Motherhood). These tips I share will give you some insight into my Dare to FLY workshop, as we countdown to my next event on Saturday July 13th. Do you know a mom that needs to take the Dare to FLY? What is this FLY business? It’s all about learning how to First Love Yourself.
No this isn’t a typo. Yes I did use this same tip for #9. In my last tip I talked about setting boundaries when it comes to your family (parents/siblings/extended) and friends. But this topic is so critical, I needed it split it up into two separate tips. While we need to set boundaries for our families and friends, we also need to do the same for our children. Yes, our children need boundaries too. Sometimes these boundaries come in the form of “tough love”.
When my baby girl was younger, she did not like going to people. She was attached to mommy 24/7. This girl would seriously holler and scream if anyone else held her (especially when we were out). The second I would take her, she would stop. While I thought it was cute and sweet at first, I soon came to realize that I was allowing her to dictate who she would tolerate and when. I realized that I needed to start setting boundaries with her, which meant leaving her for short periods of times with people other than myself or her daddy. Yes she cried, and yes I felt bad at first. But guess what? She survived and I got a piece of my sanity back. So it was worth it. Just the other day, someone commented about how loving and friendly she is, and they can’t believe she’s the same baby.
I realized that by setting these types of boundaries with my children, I was able to take better care of myself, which in turn, leads me to take better care of my children.
Take five minutes today to write out the areas in which you need to set boundaries for your child(ren). What challenges do you face when it comes to setting boundaries for your little ones? Are you quick to “rescue” them the second they turn on the waterworks? Do you allow yourself some space to get away from time to time?
If you want more in depth tips on how you can learn to set boundaries with your family and friends, come out and join me at my next workshop on July 13th. At Dare to FLY, you will be connected to other powerful moms who are ready to take that first step with you. Be sure to mark your calendar, and register TODAY by clicking on the image below.
**UPDATE: Follow these links to see the rest of the tips in my countdown**
Tip #10: Communicate
Tip #9: Set boundaries
Tip #8: Set boundaries (yup, this one is really important)
Tip #7: Put YOU (back) on your calendar
Tip #6: Avoid being “other mothered”
Tip #4: Stop serving yourself leftovers.
BONUS: Register by June 29th and bring a mommy friend with you for FREE!!!
If this tip is speaking to you, be sure to register and then share this post with your circle of moms who may need to learn how to FLY.