There are a lot of reality shows on TV nowadays. If you ever had any doubts before, the Tamar and Vince show (sister of super star Toni Braxton & music mogul/executive) is definitely one to be added to the list. Because of the show, we’ve come to know and love Lashawn and April Daniels, the husband & wife sidekick duo who also happen to be best friends of Tamar & Vince. The name Lashawn Daniels may not strike an immediate chord. But he has been known as the “Secret Weapon” behind many of today’s biggest stars. This singer/songwriter/producer (and after watching this show, I’d like to add comedian to the list) has written several multi-platinum award winning songs like “It’s Not Right (But It’s Okay)” by Whitney Houston, “The Boy Is Mine” by Monica and Brandy, “You Rock My World” by Michael Jackson, “Telephone” by Lady Gaga, and “Say My Name” by Destinys Child (to name a few). Daniels has sold over 210 million records and counting.
What I loved about chatting it up with Lashawn and April is that they put the “real” in reality. It’s beautiful to watch them interact on the show because you can tell that their love is the real deal. It was even more refreshing to speak with them and feel like they were old friends – because they were the same people during this interview as they are when they are on the Tamar & Vince show. April is a hair stylist and clothing designer. The couple have three kids.
So let’s see what they had to say about love, marriage & what they want you to know about Tamar & Vince:
I think most people were shocked last night because when we watch the show, you two seem to be the stable, funny, humble, marriage-counselor couple. So did last night’s episode give us the true side of you that we don’t get to see, or was it edited to look like more than it was?
LaShawn Daniels: In relationships you’re going to have ups and downs, you’re going to have arguments. This is why we are able to be counsel and hold each other accountable to Tamar and Vince because there is nothing that we don’t go through or haven’t been through. When someone loses a parent, you accept everyone’s condolences, but the person that lost a parent as well, you tend to feel their condolences a bit more. So how can you counsel an argument if you’ve never had one? Everything you see is real. What you guys saw last night was April and Lashawn – it was an addition to (and not a subtraction of) who we are. We call ourselves giving the full life, like people say, keeping it real. That’s what we do and who are. Now I’m glad to say that April and I are in a place to which that does not happen very often. When we first got married, that was an everyday thing. But we’ve grown together.
April Daniels: Just to piggyback off of that: I think we would be fake if you never got to see that side of us. And it just so happened that day of taping, that’s where my emotions were. You got to see inside of our marriage. Pretty much what you saw, is what happened. It wasn’t edited to look a certain way, it wasn’t done for ratings. That’s just what it was right then and there for April and Lashawn. It’s unfortunate that you don’t get to see all of it because of the timeframe. But I just want to put out there that we are very secure within our union. That moment there was pretty much me saying, “Hey baby, what you see is not what I see and I need you to rock out with what I’m telling you”. And my husband is such a great guy, he truly is. He’s not at all naïve. He likes to give people the benefit of the doubt, so it’s no reason not to trust you if he hasn’t seen any reason not to trust you. America got to see it and I got a lot of people saying things like, “Hey that was us just last week”, or “That was us last night”. It was just something real, something true.
For April: How do you deal with the pressures of being a celebrity wife and mother? And how do you specifically handle what you talked about on Thursday night’s episode: the (natural) insecurities of your husband’s field of work, and constantly being surrounded by so many women?
AD: First and foremost the communication has to be there which it is. I’m grateful that I am able to talk to my husband. We might not agree initially, but we are able to communicate to one another what our views are regarding such things. As far as his line of work goes you have to have tough skin. You have to be a secure woman because that’s all my husband is surrounded by for the most part are beautiful women…women voted the most beautiful. So we don’t have time to sit at home fussing and worrying. I know the man I married. I know that I can trust him. He makes sure he keeps his stuff in line so that I don’t even have to worry about that kind of stuff. We’re able to work through our differences and have a solid marriage. It’s a beautiful thing.
For LaShawn: What things do you do as a husband to make her feel more secure, and to reassure her that she doesn’t have anything to worry about?
LD: One thing I think that is very important is to be an open book in whatever it is that I do. My wife (although she hates it) she knows that she can come in on any session, it doesn’t matter who I’m there with. There’s not a time that she calls me and I’m not touchable or unreachable. I will never have an excuse of not picking up her call because I was in the studio recording. I don’t care who it is or what’s going on, I pick up the phone make sure she’s ok and then I can get back to work. I try and work on my history even in the future. I conduct myself in the present so that you can never look back and say, “Oh well he did do this one time”. I make sure my history is clean so that you know the character that you’re dealing with.
Check out the rest of my interview with this awesome couple on Black & Married With Kids.
Tamar & Vince airs on Thursdays at 9pm EST on WE TV. If you missed last week’s episode which was the hot topic for this interview, you can check out the full episode here: Taymar & Vince – Model Wife – Full Episode.
What do you think about the Tamar & Vince show? If you haven’t seen it, will you be tuning in to watch this Thursday?