Motherhood is everything you can imagine. It is rewarding and daunting. At times you can have tons of energy and other times your energy is drained. But out of all the emotions you can go through, the biggest feeling most parents can feel is the need to be the perfect parent. In the world of social media, you see parents who have everything perfect and in place. Their house is in tip top shape. Clean and organized. They have their kids activities on a planner and most of their kids are scholars. All A’s and knows more than those who are in college! Children are great in public. They are not throwing temper tantrums and always say please and thank you. It will make you feel insecure as a parent.
Those who feel like they need to be like the parents on social media I think should take a step back. The need to be the perfect parent is something we all go through. There are parents who do not have their house organized and they do not have their children in a million activities. Kids may be struggling in some subjects in school. Not all kids are the most well-behaved kids you see.
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The point is, we do not know what happens behind the scenes of the parents who paint a picture perfect life. We all can look great in pictures and create an image of a together family. There are plenty of parents who go through rough times with their children. Well behaved children can have a bad day. You may see the most well-behaved child throw a tantrum every now and again. Those busy activity plans can be hard to keep up. The parent can be exhausted but put up a brave face and keep up with the basketball season or dance class. Do you think the most organized house is clean 24/7? Don’t you realize some will make sure they have everything nice and clean just so they can take a picture? What about that scholar? Kids or anyone in that manner has to work extremely hard to keep their grades up. There may be a failed test here and there. Extra tutoring may be needed to keep the grades up. So now we can let go of the perfect parent theory.
There is no such thing as a perfect parent. We as parents can go through highs and lows. It is normal to have fears of not being the best parent you can be. What is not okay is comparing yourself to the parents on social media. You don’t know what goes on behind the perfect picture. Nothing is always perfect and not everything goes according to plan. We can paint the picture any way we want it to be. The most important thing is, how are we communicating with our children? Are we spending enough time with them? Are we having important conversations with them? It is one thing to take the perfect picture but it is another thing to be involved in their lives. At the end of the day, behind that picture should be happy kids who know that they are loved by their parents. We should instill in them love, structure, and responsibility. Even if the picture is not perfect, the love and discipline that they need will always be there long after the picture is taken.
Do you feel pressure to keep up appearances as a parent?