Motivational Monday: Learn How to FLY – First Love Yourself

It’s February y’all! *gasp* So I’ll be dedicating this month’s Motivational Monday posts to self-love. As moms and women, we must learn how to FLY – First Love Yourself. This is not a new concept here on this platform. It’s something that triggered me starting Moms ‘N Charge™. And for those that have been around, you know that my live workshops were created with this critical message as the center (Dare to FLY).

Last week I mentioned that I’ll be speaking at Steve Harvey’s Act Like a Success Conference next month. Well every week, leading up until the conference, Doreen Rainey will be hosting a free Success Series call with some of the amazing speakers that will be teaching at the conference. One of those speakers is Patrice Washington, and last week she spoke about this concept in a way that was so unbelievably powerful.

But if you haven’t signed up yet, to tune in weekly and access these free recordings, I encourage you to do so here. Patrice is a financial expert and has a radio show on the Steve Harvey Morning show called Real Money Answers. And boy, was she dishing out some real money answers in last week’s call.

One thing that really hit home (which I hadn’t thought of before) was the fact that your self-love and self-care has a direct effect on your finances. She used an example of people who are always there to help/bail out family members from certain financial situations. And when you make a habit out of it, regardless of who they are, you’re taking away from your own legacy and financial goals you set for you and your family. One of the money mistakes she mentioned is the fact that we’re quick to take no as an answer, but we’re not quick to give no as an answer.

She then used the example that she refused to look her now seven-year-old daughter in the face eleven years from now, and tell her she’s not able to help her through school or her entrepreneurial journey because she spent all her money helping Uncle Pooky pay his rent. She then reiterated the fact that the only person she’s responsible for is her daughter, and the legacy she’s creating to leave for her and future generations.

My favorite quote of the night: Sometimes to help people, you have to stop helping them.

We have to love ourselves enough to understand that other people’s emergencies, do not constitute an emergency on our part.

I don’t know about you, but I refuse to look my children in the eyes and tell them that I can’t support them through school because I was too busy helping out everyone else that I was not put here on this earth to be responsible for.

When you really learn to love yourself, you learn where to draw the line.

Where will you draw the line today so you can FLY?

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    Nancy T Laws
    February 4, 2015 at 10:51 PM

    Agree Christine, I just wrote about this another blog as a guest post!

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    Melody Wright
    February 4, 2015 at 6:19 PM

    Great post! I am a firm beleiver in loving yourself before you love anyone else (God is an exception). I even tell my girlfriends that when they get into a relationship they have to love themselves more than they love the guy. Self Love is so important and is the lack of it is the root of so many potential issues.
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      Christine St.Vil
      February 5, 2015 at 7:11 AM

      Thanks a bunch Melody! You are a great friend, and that advice is so important. It took me awhile to learn that years ago 🙂

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    Moms 'N Charge
    February 4, 2015 at 11:44 PM

    Thanks so much for sharing Nancy! I'd love to read your post as well. This subject can't be talked about enough! 🙂

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    February 5, 2015 at 10:34 AM

    Yes! I am excited about the conference and I agree you should care about yourself enough to be the best you can be at all times (Well, when the kids let you). I keep myself motivated by watching great people to great things. Like yourself!
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      Christine St.Vil
      February 5, 2015 at 11:33 AM

      Aww thanks so much Bernetta! I truly appreciate your words of encouragement. And I’m blessed to be surrounded by other great people, doing great things to keep me motivated as well, like yourself! LOL at “when the kids let you” 🙂

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    February 5, 2015 at 2:12 PM

    I love this and I didn’t think about it this way either. It’s really hard to see family and friends need something and not help but it’s true that it’s much easier to take No for an answer but not give it.
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      Christine St.Vil
      February 6, 2015 at 8:04 AM

      I agree Adanna! It was definitely an eye opener for me as well.

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    Katrina Morrison
    February 6, 2015 at 2:00 AM

    Thanks for the reminders in this post.I'm learning to draw the line a little each day. Great post!!

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    Mlle Parker
    February 5, 2015 at 11:33 PM

    I really hope the Steve Harvey comes over to Canada to host this conference. That would be amazing!
    ” When you really learn to love yourself, you learn where to draw the line ” this is so true. Couple years back I was saying YES to everything.Even when I couldn’t fully commit.
    But now girl, I put myself first so I can serve others better…
    Great post!!

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      Christine St.Vil
      February 6, 2015 at 8:06 AM

      Yassssss Mlle!!! Trust me, I was the same way, saying yes to everything and everyone else, then being burnt out and stressed. It’s so much easier to say no now because I understand the importance of putting myself first.

      You should put out a request to have him come to Canada! 🙂

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    Moms 'N Charge
    February 6, 2015 at 1:02 PM

    Thanks Katrina! It's definitely something that takes practice 🙂

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    February 9, 2015 at 1:27 PM

    The first thing that gets cut is overcommitment. I often think that I’m superwoman and can be everything to everyone. Well that’s not true, I have to start balancing my time wisely to not just make time for the things that I want to do, but also those that I have to do. I am ready to FLY.
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